Tuesday, 4 December 2012

The three month mark.

     This is me realizing that I haven't posted in a month and a half (again) and that all my loyal readers (my mom) are probably getting impatient. Since the last time I posted, it doesn't feel like a lot of time has passed, or like a lot has happened. Yet it really has. Last week, it was my 3 month anniversary of sorts since I got here. That's a long time considering my exchange goes for less than a year.  Time is a funny, funny thing when you're on exchange.

     So, since we last spoke, I have switched to my second host family.  My new host family is great and they truly make me feel like I belong with them. At the beginning of November, I had az ősz szünet (autumn break). I didn't do a lot the first few days, just sat around, ate some food, typical exchange student things. Then, for the last 5 days of break, we drove to Mátraháza, a tiny mountain/ski village in the northern part of Hungary. And when I say tiny, I mean TINY. Anyway, we relaxed and hiked up some mountains with really amazing views, it was beautiful! I also ate nutella palacsinta 5 days in a row and tried langos, a traditional treat that consists of deep fried dough, sour cream and different toppings, most commonly onions and cheese. It was delicious and could have easily fed two people. (I am basically asking the kilos to start piling on, I know.) So that was a wonderful week which also gave me some good bonding time with my host family.

     Since then, I've seen the exchange students a couple of times. The rebounds and rotex that I had talked to were definitely not lying when they said that those times would be some of the best of exchange. We're like a big family and when we get together it's the craziest of shenanigans. It was my American friend Judith's 18th birthday about 3 weeks ago, so we drove up to Kecskemét, where she lives about an hour north of Szeged, for her surprise birthday party. Her host parents worked really hard on planning it and it came out wonderfully. I think she was really happy. The day after, about 8 of us exchange students met up in Budapest for the day. It was wonderful to just spend some time with all of them, without really having a set plan in mind. The weekend after we had an amazing time in Pécs, a city about 3 hours away by bus. We saw some delightful sights in Pécs, stayed up late (...), went to a waterpark and castle, things like that. It seems crazy that doing things like going to 500 year old castles is a normal activity in my life now. Next weekend, there is another exchange student meeting in Győr, and it goes without saying that I am beyond excited for it.

     I have really gotten to know a lot of these people well, and I am in awe everyday at the fact that we all come from such completely different places, and are such completely different people brought together by such a powerful thing. This bond that we have and the fact that we are all going through the same experiences together defies all cultural and linguistic differences we may have, and that's a pretty amazing thing. Some of these exchange students, I could picture myself still being friends with ten years down the road. And the fact that I will have an amazing friend in pretty much all corners of the world after this year warms my heart endlessly.

     I also spend a lot of time with the exchangers in my city and our mentors from the Agora foundation (a program funded by the EU to offer activites to foreigners in cities all over Europe). We do little things like going to ballets and concerts and making crafts and things like that. They are all super nice and always take what we would like to do very seriously and try to make it happen. This week we will go bowling and the week after, ice skating! Thanks to my mentor I will also soon be able to volunteer at the children's wing of one of the hospitals here. Not only will it be a good opportunity for me to practice the language but also it will just be a good thing for my heart and mind. However, I don't doubt at all that all the 6 year old's crafts will be a thousand times better than mine.

     School is still going well, it gets to be really boring at times as I thought that at this point I'd be able to understand more and that doesn't seem to be the case. Not getting the language as quickly as I'd like is definitely frustrating. However, I keep trying (en próbálok). Thank goodness for my wonderful classmates.

     The Karacsony (Christmas) season is coming up here and it is going to bring a lot of different experiences and emotions. It will be the first Christmas that I spend without my family and that;s not going to be easy. I know that I will get homesick, but I'm also looking forward to finding out how Christmas and the New Year ork here and what sort of Christmas, quirks, if you will, Hungarians have, My host mother has already told me of a lot of things that we will do and cook (om nom) and it sounds pretty magical (that's for you, Shelby). There are also two Christmas markets in the city that run all month long, complete with lights, music and forro csoki (hot chocolate). It is such a neat thing to be able to see. This Christmas will be very different from all the ones before, but one to remember without a doubt.

     So this is the part of the post where I stop recounting everything I've done and reflect.  Enjoy this peek into the depths of my thoughts. Writing it all out and reading back on everything makes me fee lincredibly blessed, but in my day to day, I've become painfully aware of something that I can't seem to shake and could become a problem. This is the fact that I am not enjoying and cherishing the moments that make up my exchange like I should be. I am always worrying about something. I worry about the fact that my Hungarian is coming along at snail's pace or whether or not I'm spending enough time at home or with my exchange friends, whether I'm making enough Hungarian friends, about having to apply for university and make decisions that will affect the rest of my life or I'm worried about home. Or simply asking myself if I'm doing this whole exchange thing right. I think entirely too much instead of enjoying what I have in the moment. When I look at the way the Dom Cathedral lights up the city and the river or when I'm in a cafe people-watching for hours,  I realize that what I have been given is the opportunity of a lifetime and I have to start appreciating it more andgetting the most out of it. I also need to stop comparing my exchange to anyone else's. So, the goal for this month is to alter my way of thinking about exchange and my approach a little. Someone wise once told me that "my exchange is what it is but I decide what I do with what I have." There will be rough spots but how I deal with them determines my overall happiness and state of mind. I know in a year's time I will regret it so much if I don't make this change now.

So, my loyal readers (mom), the next couple of weeks should be pretty busy but I will update as often as I can and let you know the happenings of my crazy life, one that I am neverendingly privileged to be living.

PS. I feel like I don't blog for ages and then just end up writing novels...oh well?

-Daniela :)

    

Sunday, 21 October 2012

One month and a half in a nutshell.

 
It has been a while since I posted anything on my blog and since then, a lot has happened. It’s interesting because while you’re living it, it doesn’t seem like a whole lot is happening, but looking back on it, it definitely is. Three weekends ago I went up to Budapest to visit my friend from Wisconsin, Ellie. I had a fever of 100 degrees but hell or high water I was going to visit her. Turns out that taking the train by myself was not as terrifying as I thought it would be and thankfully I got there no problem. That night we went to a huge mall in the middle of Budapest and we watched Lawless in English with Hungarian subtitles. It was the first movie that I have watched while here and it was such a strange experience for me. It was phenomenally well done in my opinion, and for a good hour there, I completely forgot where I was. For all I knew I could have walked out of the Chinook theatre back in Calgary.  And when we finally walked out of the theater I had the realization for the first time since I got here “wow, this is my life now. I don’t get to go home anytime soon”, and I realized that I am very much okay with that.

       Ellie and I walked till we dropped around Budapest for the next two days and I still don’t think I saw even 10% of that beautiful city. Guess that means I have to go back and visit again soon…We did a bunch of touristy things, drank tea and ate pad Thai and had a wonderful time. I got to know Ellie a lot better and I can’t wait until the next time I see her. Her host family treated me with a ton of kindness and I am so grateful for that weekend. Budapest is absolutely without a doubt one of the most beautiful cities in the world and I fell in love with it that weekend. The sights and sounds and the life in the city are like nothing else I have ever experienced.

       I came home and life continued on in Szeged. Unfortunately the Monday after I got back, my wallet was stolen on my way to school. It’s really too bad because apart from all the material loss, I had a lot of things of sentimental value in there that I’m not getting back. At the moment all I wanted was to have my mom there with me but I had to deal with it on my own and in the end, it wasn’t that bad. I went to the police station and gave a statement (it was quite a different ordeal!) and hoped for the best. It still hasn’t been found but the experience taught me that things will happen and as a grown girl I have to learn how to deal and not lie down and die because of it.

In other news I’ve done some things with my classmates and that makes me beyond ecstatic. I love hanging out with all of them. I’ve gone to a couple of parties with them and they’re all so nice to me. I also went skating with a couple of my classmates, Patri and Vivi. They are incredibly sweet girls. It was one of the coolest experiences I’ve had since I’ve been here! The rink is like a disco on ice, SO different from the ones at home. There is music and a DJ and lights and everyone is dancing on their skates. It’s quite a hoot! Hungarians are surprisingly excellent at skating, too. It was actually them teaching the Canadian a lot of things! Go figure. I’m going to Budapest at the end of October with my class to see a Moliere piece that I studied pretty in depth on high school so I might understand some of it even if it is all in Hungarian. I want to work really hard on making more Hungarian friends because not only are most of them so kind and open to foreigners, but what better way to get a super cool cultural experience.

Speaking of Hungarian…it’s a challenge. I (and anyone who has ever been on exchange or learned a new language will understand this) wish I could just snap my fingers and be able to speak, or at least understand what’s going on. It gets truly frustrating sometimes but I also admit that I could be putting in more effort than I am. It’s just that sometimes I get exasperated and English is everywhere so it’s just a lot easier. But now is the time to change my ways and this way of thinking before I can’t catch up to the language anymore. In Hungarian classes, though, it’s helping that I am starting to notice rules and patterns. The language, while difficult, turns out is not as erratic as I thought it would be. I have come to find that Hungarian is a very phonetically focused language and the way things are said and pronounced basically determines if you will be understood correctly or not. For example, the other day at the train station dropping Judith off, I asked a woman “beszélsz angolul?” (which means ‘do you speak English?’). She looked at us really funny and just walked away. At my next Hungarian lesson I asked my teacher if I was pronouncing it wrong, and she told me that while I was pronouncing it correctly I didn’t have the correct intonation when asking to make it a question so the woman thought I was simply stating ‘you speak English’. A lot of questions in Hungarian are also just statements depending on the intonation. The alphabet is 44 letters long (I think…) and Hungarians never really learn how to spell because EVERY word, even though a lot of them are long and convoluted, sounds exactly like it is spelled. There’s nothing like having to know that in ‘knee’ the k is silent. Because of this though, every letter has to be pronounced almost perfectly or else people won’t know what the heck you’re saying. So these are all things that are small details but make a huge difference when it comes to communicating. My new host family is helping and encouraging me to speak a lot so I keep trying...

Last weekend, 5 other exchangers came down to Szeged to visit us. Judith and Paige are from the US and Yago, Stephannie and Maria Eduarda are all from Brazil. It was a fantastic weekend. We talked about anything and everything and really got to know each other. Being with them really put a lot of cultural differences into perspective. It was super interesting to see how different we all are but now we have this one life changing experience in common.  I truly love my fellow exchangers and it’s kind of crazy to think about the fact that the only reason I even know them is because of exchange. It’s surreal for me to think that there are so many people in my life now that I wouldn’t know if it wasn’t for exchange. I can’t imagine my life without them. I hope they come to visit soon! I also have an Autumn break for a week at the end of October/beginning of November. I don’t know if my family has anything planned yet but I want to make time to visit some of my exchange friends. I think this year I may celebrate American Thanksgiving. Hmm.

      Last Friday I made Shepherd’s pie with the exchange students in my city. It was quite the process. It actually turned out pretty good though and the Hungarians loved it. Yesssss. My host family also really wants me to cook for them. Am I a good cook? No. Will I try just for them? I will try my best.

 Speaking of, I switched to my second host family earlier this week. It had been a good couple of months with my first family, and I will always be so grateful that they have opened up their home to me but now it’s time to go to another! My host mom and host dad are named Anita and Daniel and I have two host sisters: Anna who is 15 and Dori who is 11. I’m super excited to become a part of their family and see this culture from another perspective. They have made me feel incredibly welcome and I haven't been here a week; they treat me as one of their own :) It’s also very convenient that they live 2 blocks away from my last home so I already know how to get to school and all those formalities will stay the same. On Wednesday, the other Rotary club in Szeged had us as guests to plant a tree in a beautiful Rotary garden and then we got to go to a restaurant (free Hungarian food? Heck yeah.) I ate game for the first time. On Saturday and Sunday we went to Gyula, a town approximately 2 hours from Szeged where I met my host mom and dad's parents. Guyla was beautiful and both sets of my host grandparents were nothing but kind to me.  I had a wondeful time and got to go to visit a 600 year old castle right on the Romanian border. It was a wonderful weekend. Also, I realized that I know a lot more Hungarian than I thought I did. Would I say I'm fluent? Nem meg (not yet.) But...baby steps! We have a 4 day weekend so I have two more days...I dunno what I'll do yet but I'm excited to have the time off school. I have to study for my Hungarian midterm. Yikes! On Thursday, I have to present a little PowerPoint talking about my life in Canada to my Interact and Rotary clubs. I will use as much Hungarian as I can, but English will also play a part. For my final presentation, I have promised myself not to have to use any English at all! Then BP Friday and a week long break! My life is soooo difficult... 

As I love this city and this country more and more every day, I also have a newfound appreciation for Canada every day.  I miss home, but my life here is pretty awesome. Every day here is a roller coaster, and I’m so, so lucky to be on it. I wouldn’t give my ride up for the world.

I promise to post again soon!

PS: I don't post photos on my blog because....I don't know why, but I have albums dedicated to my time on exchange on my Facebook:  http://www.facebook.com/daniela.galindo.52

PPS: Sorry this post is so all over the place...I kind of just wrote things as I thought of them. I hope it's at least semi-understandable!


-Daniela :)

Wednesday, 5 September 2012

Penny for your thoughts?

Disclaimer: I wrote this a couple of days ago when I was sitting in a big hall at school. This is straight from the source, raw emotion that I'm giving you here, people. Enjoy. (My blog is gonna be an honest account of all the stuff that's happening and how I'm feeling about it because I want to be able to look back in a year's time and see how I felt in that moment and how I grew as a person because of it.)

It's really difficult to describe what I'm feeling right now, mostly because I've never felt anything like it before. It's a feeling of euphoria mixed with fear mixed with frustration mixed with incredulousness (if that's even a word). I'm currently sitting in the big student hall of Ságvári, the school that will be mine for the next year. The school is old but beautiful, it has a huge courtyard and is a 5 minute walk from the city centre. My class is in a Hungarian history course that I can't understand (yet) so I came here.
It's so easy to say before exchange "I'm not going to be one of those exchange students, I'm going to learn the language so quickly and make a ton of friends and know the city, etc etc." I've come to find out, however, that it's much easier said than done. I have confidence that I'll get to that point eventually, but for now, it's a long process that requires a LOT of patience and determination. On the first day, there was an opening ceremony where we all dressed in fancy black and white attire. I was introduced to my class (which is pretty big; around 30 people) and it was over quite early. Then, yesterday morning I woke up at 6 (SIX IN THE MORNING, UNHEARD OF) and went to an English class. It was kind of strange for me, so I found a really nice group of girls that showed me to their French class.  It was super refreshing to be able to communicate well, if only for a little while. I ended the day with biology in Hungarian; it's kind of fun to try and decipher what people are saying sometimes. It's weird, because sometimes I think I finally get something and someone will translate what was said and I realize I was VERY wrong.

School is still something that I'm trying to figure out. The timing of classes and breaks is so different from what I'm used to and I don't have a set schedule yet, but I'm sure I will get into the routine soon. I'm incredibly anxious to start Hungarian lessons (which I registered for today) because I have a burning desire to communicate or at least understand a little bit of what's happening around me. This is definitely the hardest part. There is so much that I want to ask people, and tell them, and be able to order things and wish people luck and just everything but I search my brain and it's not all there yet. I want to know more about my classmates and just everything but this language barrier is not easily broken. Speaking of my classmates, they're pretty great. A lot of people have tried to talk to me and make conversation, they're so open to me, something that I definitely wasn't expecting. When people realize that they're speaking too much Hungarian, they always translate and even though it must be tough for them too and not convenient to translate everything, I appreciate their kindness more than they'll ever know.

I'm starting to notice little cultural differences also like the fact that Hungarians bring everything to the table to serve it there instead of serving it before the plate hits the table. Also, once you've previously met someone, the next time you see them you greet them with 2 or 3 cheek kisses. Also, every time the teacher enters the classroom, the students stand out of respect. Different, eh?

In the middle of my foreign-ness, I tend to forget that there's a ton of awesome things that I've done and some to look forward to as well. This weekend, we hung out with the exchange students from Kecskemét at a fish soup festival. It was so much fun, we tried new things and got to go to a beautiful cathedral built in the 1800's in Szeged. I got to explore the town some more this weekend and I finally feel like I can get around a little bit more. On Friday I'm leaving to Budapest with the other exchangers from Szeged to our first district orientation. Am I excited, you ask? HECK YEAH. It's gonna be great to meet allll the other people that are gonna be experiencing this year with me.

Hmm, that's all for now but as I continue my adventure I'll be posting more to update everyone :)

Daniela

PS: The food is still good. My host mom made Shepherd's Pie and it tasted like homeeee (except the cheese is better here).
PPS: It's still hot.
PPPS: TOO hot. (Try 35 degrees).
PPPPS: Sometimes I look around and remember just how lucky I am to be here.

Friday, 24 August 2012

Szia, sziaaaaa!

Sorry about not posting for the past few months, nothing too exciting happened in regards to exchange. And then about 4 days ago, that changed and so much started happening so quickly. Two days before my departure, I had a going away party with all my friends, my family and a few Rotarians from my club. It was an absolutely wonderful day, and I'll never forget it. It made me realize how much I am going to miss home and how much I had been taking everything for granted. Unfortunately, I didn't have much time to think about that because 2 days later I was hopping on a plane to Hungary. It was hard to say goodbye, and I miss my family and my home so much more than I thought I would. This homesickness part is not fun. But, this is going to be a very positive experience in my life.

The traveling part went down without a hitch, a lot of running around from one plane to another but not a problem other than that. I got to Budapest at 2:15 PM on Wednesday, August 22nd (22 hours after I had left with the time difference). My host mom, host dad and my oldest host brother were there to meet me. They brought me a cute little flower and we were on our way. One thing about Hungary at this time of year: it's really hot. But it's a nice change to finally feel like I'm experiencing summer!  So we left the airport and went to IKEA in Budapest. Everything is exactly the same only I can't understand anything on the signs! After that, we drove around Budapest for a bit, and I got to see some of the city, which is absolutely beautiful. I think they saw that I was very tired and so we drove down to Szeged. I was exhausted so I slept the entire way. We got home at around 9PM, I unpacked and ate and then I went to sleep again and slept for a good 11 hours!

My host family is pretty great. My host mom (Szusie) and the oldest host brother (Richie), speak English so I've been able to communicate with them. My host dad (Szoly) and smaller brothers don't speak English. I think it's a good balance because I can communicate but still have motivation to learn Hungarian. Motivation. I need a lot of that. Hungarian is notttt for the weak. It's a super hard language and when they speak it sounds like it's all one continuous word. My host mom gave me a couple of kid's books with some basic words in them to start learning. It'll take a while but I'll get there! It's a little strange being in a house full of boys, something I'm not used to! But they're a lot of fun, and we're becoming good friends :)

The day after I got here, we stayed inside all day because I was still super jetlagged and it was seriously too hot to go outside. I spent some time with the family, we watched Home Alone with English subtitles and Benny, the youngest in the house, got over his shyness and we played with his train set. Today, my host mom and I went across the bridge to Szeged (we live in Ujszeged which translates to 'New Szeged') and we went to a mall and to buy a bathing suit for me. After that, I met the Australian on exchange here, Matthew, and he took me to walk around Szeged. We walked around, got some pizza which was super good and then we came back home. Using transit here is really nerve-wracking because sometimes the bus drivers will ask questions and I don't know what they're saying and ahhh.

But hey, it's a part of it.

I'll update soon!

Daniela

Saturday, 28 April 2012

Hey everyone! So this is the blog that I'll use to update on all the happenings of the next year or so of my life because.....I'll be living in Hungary! Now, time for a story.

It was a cold October day in 2011 when she walked out of the interview with the Rotarians praying that they would give her the chance. It had been a long time coming, 2 years of wanting and striving for the opportunity of a lifetime. The next day, the Rotary Club of Calgary South changed her life forever....they chose to sponsor her for the 2012-2013 Rotary Youth Exchange year.

The end.

Actually, the beginning. That's where it all really began.

After that call, it was all anticipation and waiting. Filling out forms and getting paperwork ready. Then, after the new year, everything started going really fast. In late January, we had our first Outbound orientation, where I got to meet all the other kids who will be going on exchange. It was so much fun and really reassuring that I was meeting people who would be going through the ups and downs with me, even if we were spread out all over the world. 2 days later, we found out our countries. It went a little like this:

*hangs up phone*
Mom: So....where to???
Me:...Hungary....
Mom: That's in Europe?
Me:Um...this is awkward...I think so?

*after a couple of hours on google*

Me: YEAH IT'S IN EUROPE AND LOOK AT THE FOOD AND IT'S BEAUTIFUL AND EVERYTHING LOOKS LIKE A CASTLE AND THE LANGUAGE LOL GOOD LUCK WITH THAT BUT DID I MENTION THE FOOD.
 Om nom nom

So yeah. Even though it was the last place I expected, it's going to be my new home! I'm absolutely psyched to be going to a place with so much beauty and history...and amazing food. The language is going to be SO difficult to learn though...le sad.

Then came the March Weekend. It was an intense 3 days with the outbounds and inbounds where we learned so much about our exchange. We talked about everything and anything that was our exchange, starting with the immediate paperwork and all that fun stuff and ending with anything that could possibly help us while we were abroad. Again, it was amazing to spend time with everyone else. :)

Last week, I received the first direct contact from Hungary! My first host mom e-mailed me and told me that I'll be living in Szeged, in eastern Hungary. She told me a little bit about them and how they will be my first host family. They have a beautiful family with 3 boys! That's gonna be a crazy change from my family where it's just my sister and I, but I'm readyyyy. More to come about them!

Szeged

And today was our final outbound orientation. We got our red blazers which is the bomb dot com. It's the last time I'll see some of the other outbounds before we all leave to our corners of the globe, and I wish them all the best of luck! I'll be leaving in 3-4 months and needless to say I'm scared out of my pants. But the overbearing excitement and anticipation is bigger than the fright and I'm just a ball of emotions. It's the most exhilarating, terrifying, overwhelming feeling ever.

I hope to be frequently updating, not only to let everyone who wants to know about my exchange in on that little piece of my life, but so I can have something to look back at when I come home.

- Daniela :)